fix: make migration 17 fully idempotent for databases in intermediate states (#481)

* fix: make migration 17 idempotent and standardize column names

Migration 17 renamed columns from sdk_session_id to memory_session_id,
but the migration wasn't fully idempotent - it could fail on databases
in intermediate states. This caused errors like:
- "no such column: sdk_session_id" (when columns already renamed)
- "table observations has no column named memory_session_id" (when not renamed)

Changes:
- Rewrite renameSessionIdColumns() to check each table individually
- Use safeRenameColumn() helper that handles all edge cases gracefully
- Deprecate migration 19 (repair migration) since 17 is now idempotent
- Update maintenance scripts to use memory_session_id column name
- Update test files to use new column names

Fixes column mismatch bug in v8.2.6+

* Merge origin/main into column-mismatch

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Co-authored-by: Alex Newman <thedotmack@gmail.com>

scripts/validate-timestamp-logic.ts

@@ -59,7 +59,7 @@ function main() {
         pm.tool_name,
         pm.created_at_epoch as msg_created,
         pm.status,
-        s.sdk_session_id,
+        s.memory_session_id,
         s.started_at_epoch as session_started,
         s.project
       FROM pending_messages pm